A relationship is not a formula… it is a DIVINE APPOINTMENT

There are so many tools to explore… and do explore them. Use them to pull you out of fear and into love.

But your relationship is not in existence because of a formula, and any tool can also become a trap

You will not “call in a beloved” based on your ability to perfectly execute a formula. You will not “keep” your relationship because of adhering to a formula. This is control.
Your relationship is a LIVING ORGANISM. It has it’s own brilliance and purpose... and it does not want your rigidity, it wants your surrender!

Your relationship exists because you are one another’s perfect match to expand into your greatest yet to be. It is BEYOND ANY FORMULA. It is a sacred, divine appointment… one that is often written before you incarnated. Your souls know what they’re doing (your human is learning, but your souls know!).

The expansion happens when you LISTEN to what the moment is asking for.

There will be times when you will be asked to roar. There will be times you will be asked to bend. There will be times you will be asked to stand vigil at the door of your partner’s deepest processing, unyielding. There will be times you will be called to go off into the wilderness and remember who you are.

A REALationship will require you to shed every formula, to abandon every tool you read in a book, or on the internet, and to listen SO DEEPLY to that which is being called forth from your being. And guess what? That will shift and grow as you shift and grow.

There was a time when Non-Violent Communication was my greatest teacher.
There was a time when Polarity work/Feminine communication was my greatest teacher.
There was a time when Anger was my greatest teacher.
There was a time when Humility was my greatest teacher.

I now have ALL these tools, and more, in my body. And still, the greatest tool is my ability to LISTEN and TRUST what the moment is asking for.

And at each turn of the wheel, I have been asked to know myself and love myself more fully & deeply than each one of these tools, finding wild and wonderful places within me I didn’t know were possible to experience… and that, in turn, has created more love, more authenticity, and more of the wild and wonderful within my relationship.

So dive into these tools! And then be ready to abandon each one as Life asks that of you. Your relationship (or your path to your beloved) is more than a formula. Follow your heart… it knows the hidden pathways and secret doorways that will take you deep into LOVE itself

If you could use 1:1 support in your process, please reach out for a free consultation. You can read more about my mentorship work, or schedule your consultation here.

The Julie Day

Your Relationship is Not a Formula!